Why Men Need to Stop Saying “I Got This”

Finding strength in faith and community: A reminder to rely on Jesus and supportive brothers rather than trying to handle everything alone.

Why Men Need to Stop Saying “I Got This”

If you’re a man, chances are those three words “I got this” come out of your mouth more often than you realize. They sound confident, strong, dependable.

But spiritually, they can be some of the most dangerous words we speak.

Because when we say “I got this,” we’re often saying, “I don’t need help.”

And if we’re honest, that’s exactly where our strength starts to crumble.

1. The Illusion of Strength

We live in a culture that tells men to be independent, to fix problems, to carry the load, to never show weakness. But Jesus offers a different picture of manhood: one that begins with dependence, not dominance.

“I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.”

(John 15:5, ESV)

Men who follow Jesus aren’t called to be self-reliant heroes. We’re called to be connected to Christ first, and to the brothers He places around us.

Real strength isn’t found in saying “I got this.” It’s found in saying, “God’s got this.”

2. Signs of Self-Reliance

So how do you know when you’ve drifted from dependence on Christ to dependence on yourself? Here are a few subtle signs:

• You pray less and plan more.

• You feel constant pressure to perform or fix things.

• You struggle to accept help from God or from others.

“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.”

(Psalm 37:5, ESV)

These aren’t just bad habits, they’re signals that we’ve stepped off the path of trust and onto the treadmill of control.

3. Abiding Over Achieving

Jesus doesn’t want your effort more than He wants your connection.

Abiding in Christ means staying close, through prayer, Scripture, worship, and community.

Think of it like keeping your phone on the charger; the moment you unplug, your strength starts draining.

“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself… neither can you, unless you abide in me.”

(John 15:4, ESV)

It’s not about doing more for God, it’s about staying close enough for His power to flow through you.

4. Hand It Over

What’s that one area where you’ve been saying, “I got this,” but God is quietly saying, “Give it to Me”?

Maybe it’s your marriage, your kids, your finances, your hidden anxiety, or your private sin struggle.

Whatever it is, holding it tighter won’t fix it, surrendering it will.

“Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”

(1 Peter 5:7, ESV)

Start by praying, “Lord, I’ve been trying to carry this alone. I trust You with it.”

Strength begins right there.

5. We Need Brothers

Even Jesus, the Son of God walked with a small group of men. Peter, James, and John were His closest companions.

If Jesus surrounded Himself with men He could trust, what makes us think we can walk alone?

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

(Galatians 6:2, ESV)

Brotherhood doesn’t mean fixing another man’s problems; it means carrying them with him.

Send a message, make a call, pray together, small steps that build big strength.

Takeaway

“I got this” sounds tough, but it’s empty without Christ.

Real manhood is found in surrender, not self-sufficiency.

When we admit our need for Jesus, we don’t lose control, we find peace, power, and purpose.

“Apart from me you can do nothing.”

(John 15:5, ESV)

Let’s be men who say less of “I got this” and more of “God’s got this.”

That’s where real strength lives.

This week: Ask one brother how you can pray for him — and let someone know how they can pray for you. Real men don’t go it alone.

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